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For rifle builds or selection, it makes sense to start with the barrel, then pressure containment parts, action, receivers, fire control, aiming solutions/optics/mount, then furniture.
Barrel:
Barrel will determine weight, muzzle velocity, and most of your accuracy.
Since your stated intent is to have 2 lighter hunting rifles for you and your wife, I think youre on the right track for lengths and overall build approach.
For limited open terrain and heavy woods, 14.5 - 20 barrels work.
A 16 MLGS or 18 MLGS/ILGS/RLGS will work well for your wife, depending on how short she is.
My wife is tall, but she still thinks my lightweight AR-15s are heavy when she holds them. It really comes down to their comfort and how they interface with the rifle.
I have a 16 Lilja WASP Grendel that is really light and sounds perfect for what youre looking for, but they only made them when we did the initial Forum Group Buy with Lilja.
That overall 16 Grendel build with MI 12 free float tube, standard M4-ish receiver set, B5 SOPMOD stock, is 6.3lbs empty without any optics. If I had used 2A Balios Lite receivers and handguard, I could drop that weight down closer to 5lbs.
The 16 AA Incursion barrel is 1.99lbs, while the 11.5 Grendel AA barrel is 1.36lbs. My experience with the Incursions is that they are very light.
All 6.5 Grendel barrels should come with an M4 extension, which helps with feeding the larger diameter cartridge.
If you get a fluted barrel and its Cerakoted, it wont matter anyway.
For your wifes build, I think it pays to have it fit to her. Too light might be harder for her to shoot though, so there is a balance point.
BCG
The most important things about the Bolt Carrier Group are:
Proper 6.5 Grendel bolt that will fit and interface with your barrel extension. Pretty much everyone on the market is making Grendel compatible bolts with the correct face depth of .136, but they should be 2.810 long if you plan to use a standard firing pin. If dealing with a reputable company, they will provide matching bolts to the barrels they are turning and installing barrel extensions on.
Carriers: The carriers need a proper inner dimensional series of steps to have an efficient gas seal with the bolt. This is far more important than what coating they have on them.
If those parts dont seal well together, the gas system will leak and not provide sufficient internal gas expansion to initiate carrier movement in the cycle of operations.
The only way to measure if they are right is to have the armorers gauges, or send them to have someone with gauges perform a diagnosis for you.
The carrier key needs to be fastened correctly and securely, with proper bore diameter and flange on the opening to the gas tube flange, which inserts into it when the BCG is in battery.
It also makes sense to have a hard, tough surface inside the bolt bore that will last, and the Mil-Std hard-chromed treatment is the most tested, proven approach to that dating back to the late 1950s.
Gas block/Gas Tube
The gas block and gas tube need to be securely and properly installed and aligned with multiple critical data points.
If your gas block is not securely fit (interference fit is the best-requires a jig or lots of pounding), gas will leak from around the block/journal interface and not provide the sufficient amount of gas needed to cycle the action.
The gas tube needs to be tightly fit in the block with no leakage as well, then aligned with the carrier key so they dont clip. Clipping will wear down the flange, which will again cause short-stroking of the action.
Receivers
Upper receiver needs to have a square face, correct inner diameter raceway and extension tunnel, and mate with the lower properly. Mil-Std calls for a dry film lubricant to be baked into the raceway to help suspend lubricant and maintain lubricity for the bolt carrier rails. I use a tool to check and true my upper receiver faces so a mechanical true zero of the barrel to the upper can be achieved. Angled surfaces are caused by the anodizing process on some uppers, so they need to be trued.
The lower receiver needs to mate with the upper, pin locations need to be correct, and the magazine catch especially needs to be at the correct height. These dimensions are pretty uniform and standardized with reputable companies in the industry, so they typically arent a problem with recognized brands.
Fire Control Group and LPK
You mentioned using RRA 2-stage triggers. Those will probably be fine for your hunting uses, but when shot in a high round count, the surfaces on them are known to wear out, which is why Geissele became a thing. Im not sure where RRA stands nowadays, if they changed any processes or metallurgy, but thats one thing to note about them.
LPKs seem like they should all be the same, but they arent. Mil-Std LPKs include inspected parts, cadmium-plated detents, US-made everything including springs, so a lot of the after-market LPK stuff was trash from the 1990s-2010s. Ive seen improvements in that space since suppliers became more aware of the TDP, but it can be hit-and-miss.
You will also want correct buffers and action springs, with Mil-Spec RETs, lock rings, and end plates for the ACS stocks. ACS is a bit heavy, really good for AR-10 carbines or 20 AR-15 rifles.
Optics/Mounts
This will be the biggest expense outside of the rifle, often more than the rifle. For brush/woods and sometimes open hills, a good 1-4 or 1-6 Low Power Variable Optic works great, but a Red Dot does really well in the woods too.
Mounts are best to stay with Made in US or Europe. Tons of good companies out there in that space with more and more innovation each year.
My mounts consist of LaRue, ADM, and NightForce. I have a few off brand ones that I never bought, ended up in my shop somehow, but they are garbage.
For handguards, lightweight free-float units with solid mating to the upper are all you need. The less frills, the better for a hunter.
Let me know when you get your barrel and we can talk through the inspection, prep, and upper receiver assembly process using accuracy and reliability-enhancing techniques. You can search for those here on the forum in the meantime with the Custom Search Engine found in Announcements.
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